Remember the whole theory of the 7 year itch?
This is the point in the relationship, 7 years, where all those little things your partner does starts to get to you. Clipping their toe nails in bed, leaving socks on the floor, etc. It’s also the point where we usually find our partners the most unattractive.
Well, our ADD now extends to relationships because the 7 year itch has become the 3 year itch! That’s right. At 3 years we start to lose our patience, along with forgetting about sexy text messages and romantic surprises.
Marriage councilors and psychiatrists have always said that at some point, our relationships get a little more challenging. That point just now happens sooner.
So, what do you do? Work at it! Sex doesn’t always have to be spontaneous, so if work, kids and life has you busy, make a point of booking it in. Remember to talk to your partner too; not just about the day to day routine, but about things that really interest you and your opinions. (That includes talking to them about the things they do that are driving you crazy instead of just passive aggressively hoping they’ll realize and stop on their own.) And go on a date! There’s something about getting dressed up, flirting, holding hands and even a goodnight kiss that helps you remember all the reasons you fell in love with someone in the first place.
I admit, my fella and I’s favourite thing to do is come home; not turn on the TV but turn on some tunes. We make dinner together, both doing the cooking, then sit outside with a glass of wine and just talk. It’s grounding. I find all the stress with life and work becomes so much easier to deal with when I get that one on one time with him. And since my life is pretty go-go-go, we tell each other we have to remember how important this down time is when we find we’re getting too busy.
What do you and your honey do to help keep that 3 year itch away?